Some wives use sex to control their husbands.
一些妻子用性来控制丈夫。
When the husband listens, they give intimacy as a reward.
当丈夫听话，她们就用亲密作为奖励。
When the husband does not listen, they stop all intimacy for a long time.
当丈夫不听话，她们就长时间停止亲密。
They send a message:
她们传递出一个信息：
“I do not need sex.
我不需要性。
The past intimacy was my sacrifice.
之前的亲热是我的牺牲。
Now you disobey me, so I will stop my sacrifice.”
既然你不听话，我就停止牺牲。”
Some even look for other men secretly to meet their own needs.
有些甚至会偷偷找别的男人满足自己需要。
This makes them look even colder at home, so the husband feels more powerless.
这样会让她们在家显得更冷漠，让丈夫更加无力。
Many husbands are confused:
许多丈夫不明白：
“Why is my wife cold to me,
为什么妻子对我冷淡，
but full of passion with another man,
却在别的男人面前充满激情，
even if that man is worse than me?”
即使那个男人比我差？”
The truth is: both men and women are sinful and broken.
真相是：男人女人都是有罪、败坏的。
When one spouse is faithful and gives more, that person often feels hurt the most.
当一方忠心、付出更多时，往往受伤最深。
If you control your spouse this way, you are hurting someone who truly loves you.
若你用这种方式控制配偶，就是在伤害唯一真心爱你的人。
What the Bible Teaches
圣经怎么说
1 Corinthians 7:3–5
哥林多前书 7:3–5
“The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights,
丈夫当用合宜之分待妻子，
and likewise the wife to her husband…
妻子待丈夫也要如此…
Do not deprive one another, except by agreement for a time.”
夫妻不可彼此亏负，除非两相情愿，暂时分房。
Ephesians 5:25, 33
以弗所书 5:25, 33
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church.”
你们作丈夫的，要爱你们的妻子，如同基督爱教会。
“Let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
妻子也当敬重她的丈夫。
Hebrews 13:4
希伯来书 13:4
“Let marriage be held in honor among all,
婚姻人人都当尊重，
and let the marriage bed be undefiled.”
床也不可污秽。
Ephesians 4:31–32
以弗所书 4:31–32
“Let all bitterness and wrath… be put away.
一切苦毒、恼恨、忿怒…都当除掉。
Be kind to one another, forgiving one another.”
并要以恩慈相待，彼此饶恕。
1 John 4:18
约翰一书 4:18
“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear.”
爱里没有惧怕；爱既完全，就把惧怕除去。
A Better Way
更好的道路
Speak honestly with love, not as a trade.
要用爱心说诚实话，而不是交易。
Build trust and safety.
重建信任和安全感。
Forgive each other and seek help when needed.
彼此饶恕，需要时寻求帮助。
God calls marriage to be a place of love, respect, and faithfulness.
神呼召婚姻成为爱、尊重、忠心的地方。