父母与儿女：在主里各守本位 / Parents and Children in the Lord

三、父母与儿女：在主里各守本位、各尽本分

III. Parents and Children: Fulfilling Their God-Given Duties in the Lord

> 说明：中文经文采用《和合本》；英文经文采用公版 World English Bible，并用较容易理解的英语表达。

> Note: The Chinese Scripture text is from the Chinese Union Version. The English Scripture text follows the public-domain World English Bible, with clear ESL-level wording.

一、儿女应当在主里听从父母

I. Children Should Obey Their Parents in the Lord

以弗所书 6:1–3（和合本）

Ephesians 6:1–3

你们作儿女的，要在主里听从父母，这是理所当然的。

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.

“要孝敬父母，使你得福，在世长寿。”这是第一条带应许的诫命。

“Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise.

这应许就是：“使你得福，在世长寿。”

The promise is: “It will be well with you, and you may live long on the earth.”

经文解释

Explanation

儿女听从父母，不只是中国传统，也是神清楚的命令。

Children’s obedience to their parents is not merely a Chinese tradition; it is a clear command from God.

“在主里”说明，儿女顺服父母，是他们顺服基督的一部分。

The words “in the Lord” show that obeying parents is part of obeying Christ.

父母的权柄不是绝对的，而是在神的权柄之下。

Parental authority is not absolute; it stands under God’s authority.

如果父母命令儿女犯罪，儿女应当顺服神，而不是顺服罪恶的命令。

If parents command their children to sin, the children must obey God rather than obey a sinful command.

但是，在不违背圣经的事情上，儿女应当尊敬、听从并帮助父母。

But in matters that do not oppose Scripture, children should honor, obey, and help their parents.

“孝敬”不仅是小时候听话，也包括成年以后尊重、关怀和供养父母。

“Honor” includes not only childhood obedience but also respect, care, and support when children become adults.

二、父亲不可惹儿女的气

II. Fathers Must Not Provoke Their Children

以弗所书 6:4（和合本）

Ephesians 6:4

你们作父亲的，不要惹儿女的气，只要照着主的教训和警戒养育他们。

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

经文解释

Explanation

圣经不仅要求儿女顺服，也严格要求父母正确使用权柄。

The Bible not only commands children to obey; it also requires parents to use authority rightly.

父母不可用羞辱、讥讽、偏心、暴怒或反复无常的标准来管教儿女。

Parents must not discipline their children through humiliation, mockery, favoritism, uncontrolled anger, or constantly changing standards.

“不要惹儿女的气”不是说父母永远不可使儿女不高兴。

“Do not provoke your children” does not mean that parents must never make their children unhappy.

合乎圣经的管教，有时会使儿女暂时难过。

Biblical discipline may sometimes make children temporarily unhappy.

这里所禁止的，是不公义、无爱心、使儿女灰心怨恨的管教。

What is forbidden is unjust and loveless discipline that makes children discouraged and bitter.

父母的目标不是控制儿女，而是照着主的教训养育他们。

The parents’ goal is not to control their children but to raise them according to the Lord’s instruction.

家庭教育的最终目的，不只是让儿女成绩好、工作好、收入高。

The final goal of family education is not merely good grades, a good job, or a high income.

更重要的是，帮助他们认识神、敬畏神、明白福音，并学习过圣洁负责的生活。

More importantly, parents should help them know God, fear God, understand the gospel, and learn to live holy and responsible lives.

四、照顾家人是基督徒的基本责任

IV. Caring for One’s Family Is a Basic Christian Duty

提摩太前书 5:8（和合本）

1 Timothy 5:8

人若不看顾亲属，就是背了真道，比不信的人还不好；不看顾自己家里的人，更是如此。

If anyone does not provide for his own relatives, and especially for his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

经文解释

Explanation

这节经文首先涉及实际生活中的供养和照顾。

This verse first concerns practical provision and care.

真正的敬虔不能只停留在祷告、聚会和属灵言语上。

True godliness cannot remain only in prayer, church meetings, and spiritual words.

基督徒必须照顾家人的基本需要。

Christians must care for the basic needs of their families.

这包括食物、衣服、住所、医疗、教育、陪伴和必要的照料。

This includes food, clothing, housing, medical care, education, companionship, and necessary support.

一个人在教会中十分热心，却长期逃避家庭责任，这不是成熟的属灵生命。

A person may appear very zealous in church, but if he continually avoids family responsibilities, this is not mature spirituality.

家庭责任不能代替事奉神，但事奉神也不能成为逃避家庭责任的借口。

Family duties cannot replace service to God, but service to God must not become an excuse for avoiding family duties.

按照圣经，忠心照顾家庭本身就是事奉神的一部分。

According to Scripture, faithfully caring for one’s family is itself part of serving God.

五、基督徒家庭应当建立属灵的祭坛

V. Christian Families Should Establish a Spiritual Altar

1．亚伯拉罕求告耶和华的名

1. Abraham Called on the Name of the Lord

创世记 12:7–8（和合本）

Genesis 12:7–8

耶和华向亚伯兰显现，说：“我要把这地赐给你的后裔。”亚伯兰就在那里为向他显现的耶和华筑了一座坛。

Yahweh appeared to Abram and said, “I will give this land to your offspring.” There Abram built an altar to Yahweh, who had appeared to him.

从那里他又迁到伯特利东边的山，支搭帐棚；西边是伯特利，东边是艾。他在那里又为耶和华筑了一座坛，求告耶和华的名。

He moved from there to the mountain east of Bethel and pitched his tent. Bethel was on the west, and Ai was on the east. There he built an altar to Yahweh and called on Yahweh’s name.

经文解释

Explanation

亚伯拉罕每到一个地方，不仅支搭帐棚，也为神筑坛。

Wherever Abraham went, he not only pitched his tent but also built an altar to God.

帐棚代表他的日常生活，祭坛代表他对神的敬拜。

The tent represented his daily life, while the altar represented his worship of God.

这提醒我们，家庭不能只有吃饭、工作、学习和休息。

This reminds us that family life cannot consist only of eating, working, studying, and resting.

家庭也需要固定的敬拜、读经、祷告和属灵交通。

The family also needs regular worship, Bible reading, prayer, and spiritual fellowship.

今天基督徒不需要建造石头祭坛。

Christians today do not need to build a stone altar.

基督已经一次献上自己，成全了旧约献祭所预表的一切。

Christ offered Himself once for all and fulfilled everything pictured by Old Testament sacrifices.

因此，家庭“属灵的祭坛”是指全家在基督里一同敬拜神。

Therefore, a family “spiritual altar” means that the household worships God together in Christ.

2．约伯为儿女献祭祷告

2. Job Interceded for His Children

约伯记 1:5（和合本）

Job 1:5

筵宴的日子过了，约伯打发人去叫他们自洁。他清早起来，按着他们众人的数目献燔祭；因为他说：“恐怕我儿子犯了罪，心中弃掉神。”约伯常常这样行。

When the days of their feasting were completed, Job sent for them and consecrated them. He rose early in the morning and offered burnt offerings according to the number of them all. For Job said, “Perhaps my sons have sinned and renounced God in their hearts.” Job did this continually.

经文解释

Explanation

约伯关心儿女的生活，也关心他们与神的关系。

Job cared about his children’s lives, but he also cared about their relationship with God.

他没有因为儿女已经长大，就完全停止为他们祷告。

He did not completely stop praying for them simply because they had grown up.

敬虔的父母不能替儿女相信，也不能替儿女悔改。

Godly parents cannot believe or repent in place of their children.

但是，父母可以持续为儿女代求，并用真理劝勉他们。

But parents can continue to intercede for their children and counsel them with truth.

“约伯常常这样行”说明，家庭敬拜和代祷不应只是偶尔的活动。

“Job did this continually” shows that family worship and intercession should not be occasional activities.

属灵的家庭生活需要规律、恒心和忠诚。

Spiritual family life requires regularity, perseverance, and faithfulness.

六、全家所做的一切都应奉主耶稣的名

VI. Everything in the Family Should Be Done in the Name of Jesus

歌罗西书 3:17（和合本）

Colossians 3:17

无论做什么，或说话，或行事，都要奉主耶稣的名，借着他感谢父神。

Whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.

经文解释

Explanation

基督徒家庭不应把生活分成“属灵的部分”和“不属灵的部分”。

A Christian family should not divide life into “spiritual parts” and “non-spiritual parts.”

吃饭、工作、学习、做家务、照顾老人和教养儿女，都应当奉主的名而做。

Eating, working, studying, doing household chores, caring for elderly parents, and raising children should all be done in the Lord’s name.

“奉主耶稣的名”不是在每件事情前说一句宗教口号。

Doing something “in the name of the Lord Jesus” does not mean repeating a religious phrase before every activity.

它是指按照基督的旨意、依靠基督的恩典，并为了基督的荣耀而生活。

It means living according to Christ’s will, depending on Christ’s grace, and seeking Christ’s glory.

如果一件事情不能奉主耶稣的名去做，我们就应当认真考虑是否应该去做。

If we cannot do something in the name of the Lord Jesus, we should seriously consider whether we should do it at all.

七、在家庭中操练敬畏基督、彼此顺服

VII. Practice the Fear of Christ and Mutual Submission at Home

以弗所书 5:21（和合本）

Ephesians 5:21

又当存敬畏基督的心，彼此顺服。

Submit to one another in the fear of Christ.

经文解释

Explanation

彼此顺服不等于家庭中没有次序，也不等于所有角色完全相同。

Mutual submission does not mean that the family has no order or that every role is identical.

它表示每个人都不以自我为中心，而愿意为了基督和家人的益处谦卑服事。

It means that no one lives only for self, but each person humbly serves Christ and seeks the good of the family.

丈夫虽然承担带领责任，也必须听取妻子的意见并愿意认错。

Although the husband carries responsibility for leadership, he must listen to his wife and be willing to admit when he is wrong.

妻子虽然蒙召尊重丈夫，也不是没有智慧、意见和责任。

Although the wife is called to respect her husband, she is not without wisdom, opinions, or responsibility.

父母拥有管教儿女的权柄，也必须在神面前谦卑、公正并有爱心。

Parents possess authority to discipline their children, but they must exercise it humbly, justly, and lovingly before God.

儿女应当听从父母，也应当学习主动关心和服事家庭。

Children should obey their parents and also learn to care for and serve the family willingly.

八、在家庭中操练服事之道

VIII. Practice the Way of Service in the Family

以弗所书 6:6–7（和合本）

Ephesians 6:6–7

不要只在眼前事奉，像是讨人喜欢的，要像基督的仆人，从心里遵行神的旨意。

Do not serve only when people are watching, as people-pleasers do. Instead, serve as servants of Christ, doing God’s will from the heart.

甘心事奉，好像服事主，不像服事人。

Serve with a good will, as serving the Lord and not merely people.

经文解释

Explanation

这段经文原本直接谈到仆人与主人的关系，但其中的属灵原则也可以应用在家庭责任上。

This passage directly addresses servants and masters, but its spiritual principle also applies to family responsibilities.

做家务、照顾家人和承担责任，不应只是为了避免被责备。

Household work, caring for family members, and fulfilling responsibilities should not be done merely to avoid criticism.

也不应只有别人看见时才认真。

Neither should we work diligently only when someone is watching.

基督徒应当从心里服事，因为最终所服事的是主。

Christians should serve from the heart because ultimately they are serving the Lord.

一个家庭若每个人都只问“别人为我做了什么”，冲突就会越来越多。

If everyone in a family asks only, “What have others done for me?” conflict will increase.

一个家庭若每个人都愿意问“我今天可以怎样服事”，家庭就会更加温暖。

If everyone is willing to ask, “How can I serve today?” the home will become warmer and more loving.

九、全家同心选择事奉耶和华

IX. The Whole Family Should Choose to Serve the Lord

约书亚记 24:15（和合本）

Joshua 24:15

若是你们以事奉耶和华为不好，今日就可以选择所要事奉的：是你们列祖在大河那边所事奉的神呢？是你们所住这地的亚摩利人的神呢？至于我和我家，我们必定事奉耶和华。

If it seems evil to you to serve Yahweh, choose today whom you will serve: the gods your fathers served beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you live. But as for me and my house, we will serve Yahweh.

经文解释

Explanation

约书亚没有说：“至于我，我自己事奉耶和华，家人怎样都与我无关。”

Joshua did not say, “As for me, I will serve the Lord, but my family’s direction does not concern me.”

他公开宣告：“至于我和我家，我们必定事奉耶和华。”

He openly declared, “As for me and my house, we will serve Yahweh.”

这不是说家主能够强迫全家得救。

This does not mean that the head of the household can force every family member to be saved.

重生是圣灵主权的工作，真正的信心必须出于个人的内心。

Regeneration is the sovereign work of the Holy Spirit, and true faith must arise in each person’s heart.

但家庭带领者有责任清楚表明家庭的方向。

However, family leaders have a duty to make the household’s direction clear.

家庭不能以金钱、成绩、事业、享受或个人自由为最高目标。

A family must not make money, grades, careers, comfort, or personal freedom its highest goal.

全家应当以认识神、荣耀神和事奉神为共同方向。

The whole family should share the direction of knowing God, glorifying God, and serving God.

十、什么是家庭属灵祭坛？

X. What Is a Family Spiritual Altar?

家庭属灵祭坛，通常就是家庭敬拜。

A family spiritual altar usually refers to family worship.

它不是一种神秘仪式，也不是用家庭活动代替教会。

It is not a mystical ritual, nor does it replace the church.

家庭敬拜通常包括读经、解释经文、祷告和诗歌敬拜。

Family worship usually includes Scripture reading, explanation, prayer, and singing praise to God.

家庭敬拜不需要很复杂，也不一定要很长。

Family worship does not need to be complicated or very long.

重要的是忠于圣经、以基督为中心，并长期坚持。

What matters is faithfulness to Scripture, a Christ-centered focus, and consistent practice.

家庭敬拜不是只有父亲讲、其他人被动地听。

Family worship should not consist only of the father speaking while everyone else listens passively.

家人可以一起读经、回答问题、分享应用，也可以彼此代祷。

Family members can read Scripture together, answer questions, share applications, and pray for one another.

十一、家庭敬拜不能代替主日教会敬拜

XI. Family Worship Cannot Replace Lord’s Day Church Worship

家庭是教会生活的重要基础，但家庭本身不是完整的地方教会。

The family is an important foundation of church life, but the family itself is not a complete local church.

家庭敬拜不能代替主日聚会、圣道宣讲、圣礼和教会纪律。

Family worship cannot replace Lord’s Day worship, the preaching of the Word, the sacraments, or church discipline.

父亲是家庭中的属灵带领者，但不是因为作父亲就自动成为教会牧师。

A father is a spiritual leader in the home, but being a father does not automatically make him a pastor of the church.

健康的基督徒家庭，应当与合乎圣经的地方教会相连。

A healthy Christian family should be connected to a biblical local church.

家庭敬拜帮助家人预备自己参加教会敬拜，也帮助家人把主日听见的真理应用在生活中。

Family worship helps prepare the household for church worship and helps the family apply the truth heard on the Lord’s Day.

十二、家庭敬拜的简单实践

XII. A Simple Pattern for Family Worship

1．固定时间

1. Choose a Regular Time

家庭应当尽量选择一个多数家人可以参加的固定时间。

The family should choose a regular time when most members can participate.

时间不需要很长，但应尽量稳定。

The time does not need to be long, but it should be consistent.

2．连续读经

2. Read Scripture Continuously

可以按照圣经书卷逐章阅读，而不是每天随意挑选一节。

The family may read through a book of the Bible chapter by chapter rather than choosing random verses each day.

3．简要解释

3. Give a Short Explanation

解释应当清楚、忠于上下文，并指向基督和福音。

The explanation should be clear, faithful to the context, and point to Christ and the gospel.

4．提出问题

4. Ask Questions

可以问：“这段经文告诉我们神是谁？”

You may ask, “What does this passage teach us about God?”

也可以问：“这段经文指出我们有什么罪和责任？”

You may also ask, “What sins and duties does this passage reveal?”

还可以问：“这段经文怎样指向基督和祂的恩典？”

You may also ask, “How does this passage point to Christ and His grace?”

5．一起祷告

5. Pray Together

祷告应当包括敬拜、认罪、感恩和祈求。

Prayer should include worship, confession, thanksgiving, and requests.

也可以为家人、教会、福音事工和社会需要代祷。

The family may also pray for relatives, the church, gospel ministry, and the needs of society.

本部分总结

Summary of This Section

家庭成员都应当在主里各守本位、各尽本分。

Every family member should fulfill his or her God-given role and duty in the Lord.

儿女应当尊敬并听从父母。

Children should honor and obey their parents.

父母应当用真理、爱心和合宜的管教养育儿女。

Parents should raise their children with truth, love, and proper discipline.

家人应当彼此照顾，不可用属灵活动逃避实际责任。

Family members should care for one another and must not use spiritual activities to escape practical duties.

基督徒家庭应当有规律地读经、祷告和敬拜。

Christian families should read Scripture, pray, and worship regularly.

家庭敬拜不能代替教会，却能坚固家庭与教会的关系。

Family worship cannot replace the church, but it can strengthen the relationship between the family and the church.

全家不应满足于安逸和享受，而应当同心事奉耶和华。

The family should not be satisfied merely with comfort and enjoyment but should serve the Lord together.

家庭讨论问题

Family Discussion Questions

1．我们家目前有哪些人已经尽到了自己的家庭责任？哪些方面还需要改进？

1. In what areas are we already fulfilling our family responsibilities? What areas still need improvement?

2．父母怎样避免在管教儿女时惹儿女的气？

2. How can parents avoid provoking their children while still disciplining them?

3．成年儿女应当怎样继续孝敬和帮助父母？

3. How should adult children continue to honor and help their parents?

4．我们家的家庭敬拜目前是否稳定？最大的困难是什么？

4. Is our family worship regular and stable? What is the greatest difficulty?

5．除了读经和祷告，我们全家可以怎样共同服事神？

5. Besides Bible reading and prayer, how can our family serve God together?

家庭祷告

Family Prayer

慈爱的天父，我们感谢祢设立家庭，并把我们放在这个家庭中。

Loving heavenly Father, we thank You for establishing the family and placing us in this household.

求祢赦免我们在家庭中自私、懒惰、骄傲和不负责任的罪。

Please forgive our selfishness, laziness, pride, and irresponsibility within the family.

求祢帮助儿女在主里尊敬父母，也帮助父母用爱心和真理养育儿女。

Help children honor their parents in the Lord, and help parents raise their children with love and truth.

求祢使我们不只是关心家人的物质需要，也关心彼此的灵魂。

Help us care not only for one another’s material needs but also for one another’s souls.

求祢在我们家中建立稳定的读经、祷告和敬拜生活。

Establish regular Bible reading, prayer, and worship in our home.

使我们不以金钱、成功和享受为家庭最高目标。

Do not let money, success, or comfort become the highest goals of our family.

愿我们可以同心宣告：“至于我和我家，我们必定事奉耶和华。”

May we declare together, “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”

奉主耶稣基督的名祷告，阿们。

We pray in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.